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Interview with Libby Dores

Dores, Libby
Raider, Amy
Date of Interview: 
Overcoming obstacles; relationships with people and places; Then and now
Libby Dores talks about the ups and downs of her life.
Charlotte Narrative and Conversation Collection
Collection Description: 
Amy Raider interviews Charlotteans to collect stories for a class project at UNC Charlotte.
AR (Amy Raider): You must have put it right in front. ( ) There we go.
LD (Libby Dores): Is it on?
AR: It's on. OK. So, this is Amy and this is my grandmother, Libby Dores. All right and she's going to tell you a little bit \\ about herself \\.
LD: \\I was \\ I was born and raised in New England in Boston. And I'm very pleased to do this for my Amy. I met my husband when I was 12 years old and he was 15. We were just kiddos and we played tennis together. Now, he was my brother's best boy friend, my brother Bill. And he attached himself to our family. He became very close with my mom and he would come in and he would, in spite of the fact that I was not there, he would be there playing casino with her and having a cup of tea and having some potato pancakes. And I'd always say, "What are you doing here?" And he'd say, "I came to see your mom and your brother isn't home." I said, "I know." And we would play tennis. And one day he said, "How would you like to go to Howard Johnson's and have a hot fudge sundae?" Now that was like up the street. And I said, "Sounds good to me," because I weighed 90 pounds.
AR: [Laughs]
LD: So that's kind of interesting and I did go with him and right then and there my heart started to click. And I knew that that was going to be the man for me and he said, "Someday I'm going to marry you, you know that." And I was such a tomboy, impossible to live with. As a result, as a result, he's, uh, I put up my dukes and I said, "I'm going to fight this off. No, we're not going to be married." And sure enough, we went together for many a year. I was 19 and I went to this college. I went to one year and he had to go into the Navy, and he joined the military. And he said, "Someday I want to buy my own bakery. How does that sound?" I said, "That sounds good to me. I'll keep saving, I'll work and I'll save." When he got out of military, I handed him the check and I said, "Go down to Silver Bakery now. It's for sale and it's yours." "Well, before I do," he said, "We have a big party coming up and I want to take you to NY." And I said, "Why?" "Because I want to buy you a dress, a gown." And I said, "There are so many stores in Boston." "Not good enough." So we went to New York. We went to Bergdof Goodman, which is an excellent store, and I tried on a gown and he said to the lady, "You wrap it up. That's for her." And I said, "We don't even know how much it's going to cost," because we had very little money. Sure enough, the lady wrapped it up, I went home with it, bought shoes and gloves and we had some pictures that I've, we've taken with that gown. It looks so great. There were times, there were hills and valleys, but most of them were hills.
AR: Do you still have the gown?
LD: So many pleasant memories. A lot of good memories and we were married for 48 years until the man upstairs said, God said, "I need Phillip now, OK?" And I was reluctant, but I had to let him go. But that was a very good marriage and from that marriage we created a beautiful daughter and her name is Irene and we love her very much. And three great grandchildren, Bill, Donnie, and my Amy and we have a very happy, very happy family. Bless our family. The end, baby.
AR: Can you tell me your favorite memory of even us as kids when you and Grandpa were, when we were real little, and you and Grandpa were keeping us? Can you tell me one of the favorite things that you remember about that?
LD: Some of the favorite things that he did when he'd come home from the bakery, we had five stores.
AR: Uh-huh.
LD: And when he'd come home from the bakery he would put all the hot bagels and all the hot bread right in the middle of the table, and you kiddos would be sitting around looking and all of a sudden he'd take a bite of one and put it back-.
AR: [Laughs]
LD: And then bite of another and put it back. That really didn't jell.
AR: [Laughs]
LD: No, I'm going to try another one. It was just perfect. He made wedding cakes for almost everyone in my family and his family and he has a delightful family. He just has two sisters that are still around and, uh, we do very well and we had, at times, we didn't have very much money but that was OK. We would take, we didn't have a car, so we took a walk and we would go to a place by the name of Joe and Emos which is like the White Tower or, um, the Pancake House or something like that and we would share a half a hotdog.
AR: [Laugh]
LD: And that was fun. That was good, and on the way home he would cut it in half and I would have half and he would have half because there were times we did not have very much, and my folks didn't have very much either, but we enjoyed life and that's what's it all about. Little things mean a lot. And you have to love people. People are people. Good or bad, but they're people. And that's the way it is.
AR: Can you tell me a little bit about your experience with Parental Stress and-?
LD: All right. I started with Parental Stress.
AR: What is it?
LD: Parental Stress is children that are being abused, and Parents Anonymous are the parents of those children. So we had a meeting from time to time we would meet. We were constantly trying to help them. In my logbook. Hopefully they would get back to me and they would, they would change their way of living but many of them do not and they just don't and, uh, I would often visualize, try to visualize what they looked like and how they would behave but there are times that I just couldn't because they didn't reveal that much to me, so whatever I can grasp, which was fine, and I learned how to listen which is very, very important and difficult. They taught me to listen. And I really liked it and I kept up with it until I moved to North Carolina, and that's the way it is with the Parental Stress and Parents Anonymous. There's a lot going on with it and I never knew if, uh, a man called and he just wanted to hear a female's voice because he was masturbating at the same time, and so as a result I knew that he wanted to hear a female's voice. There a lot of experiences with this.
AR: I bet.
AR: OK. I think we have everything.